Soooo I didn't go in to work today. I have loads of house stuff to do today too, so I really need this day, preferably without the massive cramps, but oh well.
During the excruciating pain, I went to art class. Because I am that dedicated to my project. Funny that I don't really have ONE project, but whatever. I love drawing, and I recently drew a womens picture from a magazine, last night I decided to start a similar picture:
Magazine image from last night
Drawing from last night, it's not done yet, still have to add a little detail to her and then the background of course!
Things like these are the things that will keep my sane the next two weeks. I have to keep busy and fill my schedule to the max, so I don't sit around an dwell on this waiting period.
What are some of your kill the 2 week wait tricks?
I really hope the good feeling I have isn't going to end up crushing me at the end of this!
#15 "Please respect my privacy regarding my adoption. Don't tell other people without my consent." Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. By Sherrie Eldridge.
This book has been talking about the importance of talking about adoption with your kids, but this chapter I am SOO glad to see, because even though it is crucial we talk to our kids about adoption, it does not mean we tell the world about their adoption. Kids NEED to feel just like all the other kids. If we tell their teachers, other parents, the grocery clerks all about their adoption then they feel like they are not apart of the family. The feel too different and then start building walls up again. Sometimes it is necessary other people outside of family and close friends know, like doctors, or teachers when there is a special learning need they may have due to their life before adoption, like fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. But really there is not much need to advertise the fact that they are adopted. If a situation arises when it needs to be told, ask their permission first. This is their life we are talking about, it should be them that says if they are ok sharing the information of not.
I am grateful for this chapter, because I have heard parents introduce their adoptive child as "Oh and this is our adoptive child Mary." How painful is that? You wouldn't introduce a child of a divorce as "This is John, he is a child from divorce!"
There will be times when people make stupid and inappropriate comments and you just have to be patient and model to your child how to deal with these morons. Example: When someone from the gossip train has heard that you adopted and then runs into you and your child and asks "Oh is this the adoptive one?" You can answer "Hmm well since we are on the topic of being nosy bitches, how was that affair you were having?" Ok so maybe thats what I would want to say, and to be honest I just may lash out at these low life's, but the book says to answer like this "Hi Mrs Prudi, why do you ask?" and then change the subject after she mumbles around for a while in her empty head to come up with an answer.
My little one/s. People can be lame. I wish that these questions would never occur, but I know there will be times when people say stupid things, adults, teens and your peers. So I will TRY to model for you the best way to handle the situation, and I will teach you the best things to say when someone approaches you. I also PROMISE, cross my heart and hope to die, that I will never tell someone about your adoption without your approval. And if we have to tell someone, we will do it together and educate them on adoption, ok? Man, I just love you guys so much.