The gold pole was calling me

Because my life is really not busy, or interesting enough, I have added a new class to the schedule. My sister and I are learning to pole dance.

While we were shopping on Saturday I noticed a studio beside the consignment store. I figured it was just a dance studio. But on the way out I noticed a shinny gold pole. I thought "NO it can't be!"

To my utter delight it was indeed a pole dancing studio! I have always been interested in this sport/art/dance thing and was giddy with excitement that they actually had a pole dancing studio only minutes from my house! Maeghan was also very excited about the idea.

So yesterday I signed her and I up for classes starting on June 19th for 6 weeks. I cannot tell you how pumped I am about this!

I LOVE learning new and interesting things and can't wait to start on this new adventure! My motto is "I hate being bored." So keeping busy with classes, projects, crafts, arts, cooking etc has always been my thing!

This will probably be another struggle for me when it comes to parenting. We aren't rich people (even though one commenter thought I must be after my little shopping spree! It's why I love the consignment, CHEAP!) and having children, especially if we get matched with a sib group of 3 and then find out we are pregnant with twins! OMG...I won't have much money laying around for me to take classes. So I figure, if it's something I will have to give up once we have children, then I better get all the class taking done that I can while being child free!

Moms out there, do you have money and time to take a class once in a while? How do you manage the babies and fiances etc to do fun activities!?!

# 17 "Not knowing my full medical history can be distressing at times." Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. By Sherrie Eldridge.

Pretty self explanatory, this chapter mostly listed examples of how this situation has caused pain. When a emergency arises, a medical condition appears, before physicals and at any doctor appointments. The question what is your medical history appears everywhere. And most take it for granted that we know ours. For these kids, if they have come from closed adoptions, where there is no contact with the birth parents, often times not much history is provided. This can cause a lot of issues in life and can be a really hard thing for kids to deal with.

I think the best thing we can do is prepare the kids before these appointments. Talk to them about what questions will be asked and how this is going to be hard. Prepare them for what you will need to say and what adoption details will have to be shared, ask their permission.

I didn't think the book provided very good tips for parents about this one. For younger kids, like 8 and younger, I think a schedule should be made. When I worked with autistic kids, these scheduled proved to be invaluable tools. You simply take a piece of paper and a pencil and draw out some boxes, in the boxes you take turns filling them out with things the adult wants the kid to do (go to the doctor, clean their room, do the dishes, or even smaller like, finish 3 math questions, tie your shoe lace etc) and then the kid gets to pick an activity to put in the next box (drawing, painting, park, toy, ice cream etc) this way they feel in control of their lives and both the adult and kids get what they need out of the event.

Little one/s, I don't know what information we will be provided with. I imagine it won't be much. I am sorry about this. I wish we knew everything, so that when the time arises we could share with you all the details and history of your first family. But if this is not possible, I promise to face these hard appointments with you, I promise to prepare you well enough in advance so its not a shock, and I promise to advocate the best I can for you, because you mean that much to me dear one.

Comments

[Shinejil]

Those spring-loaded poles really get you twirling! Have a blast!

[Jenni]

First of all, I want to thank you. You really do brighten my day. I was having a little pitty party and feel a whole lot better. I look forward to reading your blog and I would not be lying to you if I said that in my favorites, you are #2 (only behind my best friend for 16 years) lol. Thank you so much for giving me the breath of fresh air that I need and by the way, know that I am saying a prayer for you every night of your 2ww as I know you are going to get thru this great and with a wonderful outcome. Take care and again, Thnx.

[erin]

i am so excited to hear all about your pole dancing class....sounds like it will be a blast....thanks for just being you!!

[DC]

Several of my friends swear by pole dancing classes. It's quite a trendy thing where I live. Sounds like fun!

[K @ ourboxofrain]

The class sounds like a lot of fun! And will give you something else to look forward to at the end of this 2 week wait :)

[Alicia]

I have come to myself on my NaComLeavMo spreadsheet. In order to be fair and accurate I must comment here right?? RIGHT??

[naomi]

so jealous that you're taking that class! i was a shot girl a lifetime ago at a go go bar and tried the pole thing when we were slow one day...a lot harder than you'd think! good luck and have fun...make sure you blog about it so i can live vicariously through you lol

[Pamela Jeanne]

NaComLeavMo back at cha!

You go, girl! Your post not only made me giggle, it reminded me that I need to broaden my horizons, too...now what class do I want to take???

[Michelle]

Here from NCLM...very cool class to sign up for!! Last summer I was able to do Pilates 2x per week in the evening, but it is a trick to find the time and $$ to do ANYTHING for yourself when there's a baby around.

As for the limited medical history...we are in an open adoption, so we have some information and occasionally ask for more. And any time I've written "not known", the doctors haven't blinked.

[Brandygirl]

I've always wanted to do that! so fun and interesting! And I hate being bored as well! HATE IT!

Keep us posted how your pole dancing goes!

[Jen]

So, is that you in the picture? You certainly are good at that for one who has just started. Hehehe.

[DC]

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[C]

From NaComLeavMo! Thanks for the comment on my blog. :)

I would LOVE to take pole dancing, I'm so jealous. I used to take tap/jazz/ballet waaaaaay back in the day, and now that I have some extra weight to shed, I'm wishing I could get back into a class of some sort.

Oh, I love love loved Sex and the City, too! Tons of fun, and surprisingly emotional, too.

[Kymberli]

Learning to pole dance sounds like so much fun! I think I'd be too embarrassed to do it in front of a lot of people.

To answer your question on activites after children - at least for me, the activities I participate in have shifted from me to the kids. Now Girl Scouts and rec sports take the place of my activites, and those are WAY fun to do with the kids.

I hope and pray you'll be able to make that same exchange, soon!

[Kymberli]

I forgot to add - I went to see Sex and the City with my sisters on Sunday and it was the best time. I LOVED, LOVED, LOVED the movie!

[Emily (Apron Strings)]

Pole dancing! Ah ... something I would totally do, if I could only be even slightly flexible. Ack. Still trying to feel comfortable in my new bathing suit ... :-)

Thanks for commenting on my blog!

[MamaSoon]

LOL. Too fun! Who knows what pictures will end up on this blog!

[chicklet]

I've totally thought about pole-dancing but I'm super clumsy and awkward, so I stick to blogging and drinking wine instead.

[Danielle Melnyczenko]

Awesome! I might take up a few difference courses too. Go Girl :)

[Mel]

Stripper class-hilarious!!
I always give my friends the Carmen Electra stripper aerobic DVDs as bachelorette shower gifts.
Cannot wait to hear about the class, though.
*hugs*