Because my life is really not busy, or interesting enough, I have added a new class to the schedule. My sister and I are learning to pole dance.
While we were shopping on Saturday I noticed a studio beside the consignment store. I figured it was just a dance studio. But on the way out I noticed a shinny gold pole. I thought "NO it can't be!"
To my utter delight it was indeed a pole dancing studio! I have always been interested in this sport/art/dance thing and was giddy with excitement that they actually had a pole dancing studio only minutes from my house! Maeghan was also very excited about the idea.
So yesterday I signed her and I up for classes starting on June 19th for 6 weeks. I cannot tell you how pumped I am about this!
I LOVE learning new and interesting things and can't wait to start on this new adventure! My motto is "I hate being bored." So keeping busy with classes, projects, crafts, arts, cooking etc has always been my thing!
This will probably be another struggle for me when it comes to parenting. We aren't rich people (even though one commenter thought I must be after my little shopping spree! It's why I love the consignment, CHEAP!) and having children, especially if we get matched with a sib group of 3 and then find out we are pregnant with twins! OMG...I won't have much money laying around for me to take classes. So I figure, if it's something I will have to give up once we have children, then I better get all the class taking done that I can while being child free!
Moms out there, do you have money and time to take a class once in a while? How do you manage the babies and fiances etc to do fun activities!?!
# 17 "Not knowing my full medical history can be distressing at times." Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. By Sherrie Eldridge.
Pretty self explanatory, this chapter mostly listed examples of how this situation has caused pain. When a emergency arises, a medical condition appears, before physicals and at any doctor appointments. The question what is your medical history appears everywhere. And most take it for granted that we know ours. For these kids, if they have come from closed adoptions, where there is no contact with the birth parents, often times not much history is provided. This can cause a lot of issues in life and can be a really hard thing for kids to deal with.
I think the best thing we can do is prepare the kids before these appointments. Talk to them about what questions will be asked and how this is going to be hard. Prepare them for what you will need to say and what adoption details will have to be shared, ask their permission.
I didn't think the book provided very good tips for parents about this one. For younger kids, like 8 and younger, I think a schedule should be made. When I worked with autistic kids, these scheduled proved to be invaluable tools. You simply take a piece of paper and a pencil and draw out some boxes, in the boxes you take turns filling them out with things the adult wants the kid to do (go to the doctor, clean their room, do the dishes, or even smaller like, finish 3 math questions, tie your shoe lace etc) and then the kid gets to pick an activity to put in the next box (drawing, painting, park, toy, ice cream etc) this way they feel in control of their lives and both the adult and kids get what they need out of the event.
Little one/s, I don't know what information we will be provided with. I imagine it won't be much. I am sorry about this. I wish we knew everything, so that when the time arises we could share with you all the details and history of your first family. But if this is not possible, I promise to face these hard appointments with you, I promise to prepare you well enough in advance so its not a shock, and I promise to advocate the best I can for you, because you mean that much to me dear one.